Ah Quin Jie - lar…….

Anyone has any antidote for depression?

I am asking this because I am hearing many people are feeling depressed. Either from studies or work. I heard also that some have suicidal feelings because of the pressures…….pressures of being victimised? What can be done when one is feeling that life is unfair and why do we have to face with all this?

There are so many people around us and we all have different personalities. Some are able to cope well and some do not know how to cope. Some knows that there is still tomorrow but some can only see today. Some can only see "I" and some could see "we". Whatever personalities that we have, I think God did not mean for us to live alone. We need one another with all the different personalities to be together in this journey of life. We need our families and friends and also the people around us whether we know them or not to help us move on. We help shape one another’s life…whether towards the negative or positive side (hopefully towards the positive side..). We pray that God will give us at least one or two close family members or friends that we can really share our struggles with…

You know the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible? The first few chapters are quite depressing because it says that everything is meaningless…..but towards the end half of the book….we see that God really wants us to enjoy this life that  He has given us. And in chapter 3 it is written…there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven…

a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

at time to weep and at time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.

Hmm….just some thoughts that were on my mind these past few weeks.

My friend’s dad passed away last Thursday and I went for the wake service after work on Friday night and then attended the funeral on Saturday morning. I do not like to go for funerals because I do not know what to say to the family members….but come to think about it…..I think they really appreciate our presence at this time of joy and sadness….actually we were all smiling and talking on all topics under the sky lar….=) During the wake service, the liturgist said the word ‘comfort’ in every sentence. I have never heard the word mentioned so many times in any service before =p There were smiles on people’s faces that night because of the memories of uncle who in his simple ways touched our lives. On the funeral day, the grandchildren showed clips of their grandpa and the eulogy was shared by one of the daughters. Now there were more eyes that were filled with tears….and as we took turns to say farewell to uncle, tears were freely falling down and another close friend could not stop her tears and made my friend cry all the more….then we followed to the cemetary and said our final good bye. Uncle is now in heaven with aunty….

On a lighter note, we had lunch after coming back from the cemetary at one of the restaurants. I sat at a table where all of them are senior citizens of the church…=) all of them were exchanging all the holiday trips that they went….some of them even went on the same tour…they really are enjoying themselves…I sat there amused listening to all the dos and don’ts and the good and bad of the places they went…hehe…but it is good to be in  a community where we can share our lives together…

Till the next time I blog….cheerios!!